1-2-3 A Calmer Me: Helping Children Cope When Emotions Get Out of Control

It's okay to feel mad.
This is what I do to help me feel better.
I stop and say a rhyme.
Let's try it together.

At one time or another, you have probably witnessed a child’s emotions spinning out of control. When children are upset, it can be frustrating for parents, teachers, and any grown up. Don’t forget, young children are still learning to control their emotions, and learning this skill is an important part of
childhood.

Without your help, children may resort to hitting, kicking, biting, screaming, or crying when they feel frustrated, challenged, or disappointed. When children behave this way, we often tell them to stop. However, while these behaviors need to change, remember that upset or uncomfortable feelings
are okay. Part of growing up is learning how to handle those feelings in ways that make us feel better.

In this book, the rhyme “1-2-3 A Calmer Me” is a simple mantra for helping children cope when their emotions start spinning out of control. Based on the psychological principles of relaxation and mindfulness, the mantra can be used anywhere, anytime.

Includes a “Note to Parents, Teachers, and Other Grown-Ups” with more information about the steps of the “1-2-3” rhyme and advice for working on them together with a child.