Insight into Adoption: What Adoptive Parents Need to Know About the Fundamental Differences Between a Biological and an Adopted Child--And Its Effect on Parenting

Adoption is intended to be, and should be, a fulfilling, beautiful, rewarding, and enriching aspect in anyone’s life. Many times, however, there are pitfalls and a lack of resources to turn to for help, advice, and answers on the subject. This book deals with these pitfalls which may not be obvious to the unenlightened adoptive parent who was basically handed a child and told to “Make him your own.” The goal of this book is to help adoptive parents understand some potentially challenging factors so they can deal with them positively and to help parents comprehend the thinking process of their child. It will also be an invaluable resource to social workers, teachers, and counselors so that they may approach their adopted clients in an enlightened way once they understand an adopted child has issues in his life unique to the adoptive process. Adoptive parents reading this book can gain a different insight into their child’s reasoning, and this information can be used to avert some potential problems they might otherwise face. It includes all the issues that adoptive families should be told about, and it is based primarily upon real life experiences relating equally to both sexes. In particular, it will apprise the non-adopted person, the adoptive parent, so he can look at the obstacles his adopted child may be facing. Then he, as a parent, can begin to understand his child’s behavior. Once the true source of the adopted child’s pain is discovered, parents can reach the “ah, ha” moment we have all experienced. With understanding comes a new attitude and the impetus to change the whole atmosphere from negative to positive. The child and his parents will still have issues to deal with, but the source has been uncovered and issues can be faced openly. Readers will appreciate that the book is designed to flow in the first person as if the author was talking directly with them.