The Male Mother book is first of a series of four that are designed to help men develop their feminine side. Men are largely unaware of their feminine side that has been ignored and denigrated by many in our modern world. This series of books The Real Men series because it addresses the need for men to become fully mature and effective adults.The Real Men series is about helping adult men develop and integrate their often-ignored feminine side. Otherwise, they are unable to meet many of the challenges of modern life, in general, and fatherhood, in particular. In order to meet these challenges, fathers need to acquire new skills in male mothering. One of the first challenges many adult men face is being able to be an effective father for their children. I have yet to meet a father who feels like he was well equipped for the job. This book presents a more complete picture of what mature adult fathers looks like. It is rare that fathers get this kind of information. Many men do not even know what a mature father looks like, because our culture paints men as macho, dominant, non-feeling critters. It also encourages men who have avoided and denigrated feminine aspects of their personality. This means being more in touch with their feelings and seeking committed, equalitarian, adult relationships.My research clearly suggests there is a rapidly emerging trend among younger men in our culture that supports being interested in developing and integrating their feminine side. This book presents a roadmap of the emerging feminine side of development for men to follow. Many men silently carry quilt and shame about what they did or did not do raising their children. This book shows fathers how to overcome their perceived failings as a father and describes the skills they need to help correct mistakes they may have made as a father. Fathers need the learn some of the following Male Mother skills:* Display genuine empathy toward their children when they are experiencing deep emotions.* Speak and act in ways that nurture their children.* Show compassion toward their children even when they oppose their father's ideas or requests.* Look their children in the eyes and connect with them as separate human beings.* Forgive their children's failings without judgment.* Give them emotional support, mirroring and unconditional love. * Negotiate to get their needs met without diminishing the needs of their children.* Create a lifestyle that models life-giving values, beliefs and behaviors toward humans, plants, animals and all creatures that are vulnerable and dependent.* Access to the "wisdom of the heart" or intuition to guide his decisions.This book will help you perform four important "initiations" for your children that provide the secure foundation they need to become responsible, mature adults.The four initiations are: * Cutting the Cord: Creating the Divine Family Triangle* Facilitating the Completion of the Psychological Birth of Your Children. * Helping Your Children Achieve Mastery of Everyday Tasks.* Helping Your Children Learn To Negotiate to Get Their Needs Met and How to Cooperate with Others. This book describes the essential skills and understandings you need to be effective as a father to your children. Even if your children are older, it is never too late to provide this support for them. Once you know what to do, you can find ways to fill in the developmental gaps in your children. One thing is for sure; they always will be your children no matter how old they are. It is never too late to for you to relate to your children or grandchildren as a Male Mother.

The Male Mother:: The Missing Skill Set For Fathers (The Real Men Series)

Parenting & Relationships

Weinhold PhD, Barry K.

Family Relationships

CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform

Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way

Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way presents readers with a proven paradigm for effective conflict resolution in all human systems called the Partnership Way. Within this model, individuals are encouraged to see those with whom they are experiencing conflict as partners and to identify conflict as an opportunity for personal and relational transformation. The Partnership Way features a strong theoretical foundation, presents a systemic approach to conflict resolution, and empowers individuals to lead more authentic lives. The book is divided into four parts. Part One provides an overview of the Partnership Way, its theoretical foundation, and the key components of the model. In Part Two, readers learn how to apply the model to resolve interpersonal conflicts concerning wants, needs, values, and beliefs. Part Three demonstrates how to resolve intractable conflicts that involve unmet needs related to unhealed development traumas. The final part of the text focuses on the application of the Partnership Way to resolving conflicts in schools, professions, communities, cultures, nation-states, and the history of the human race. Highly personal and experiential in nature, Conflict Resolution helps current and future practitioners in education, counseling, social work, psychology, and law to not only develop skillsets to guide clients through effective conflict resolution, but to successfully apply the skills to their own lives and relationships.
Barry K. Weinhold, Ph.D. is professor emeritus and the founder and former program chair of the counseling and human services M.A. program at the University of Colorado at Colorado Springs. He is the co-founder and director of both the Colorado Institute for Conflict Resolution and Creative Leadership and The Kind &amp; Safe Schools Initiative, a nationally acclaimed school violence prevention program. Dr. Weinhold is the founder of The Kindness Campaign, a community-based violence prevention program, and the co-founder of The First Visitor program, a home visitation program designed to prevent child abuse and neglect. Dr. Weinhold earned his Ph.D. from the University of Minnesota and been a licensed psychologist since 1976. He taught conflict resolution classes at the university level for over 10 years and is the author or co-author of 65 books.

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Psychology & Counseling

Cognella Academic Publishing

Developmental trauma is the result of early relational experiences that include birth trauma, attachment trauma, separation trauma, being unwanted, and a host of intergenerational patterns. Developmental trauma is an increasingly important area in the field of traumatology, one that has been validated and supported by the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) research findings. They showed that early childhood trauma has a pervasive impact on long-term mental and physical health Developmental trauma is distinctly different from PTSD, which is caused by event trauma later in life. People remember event trauma, but usually have little recall of developmental trauma. It typically appears later in life in intimate relationships, and is a major cause of recycling conflicts during adulthood. Developmental trauma has deep and long-lasting effect on child development and causes chronic and degenerative diseases in adulthood, as shown by the ACEs research findings. Because it occurs in close relationships, it must also be healed in a relational context. This book describes how the growing emphasis on developmental trauma has become a game-changer in the mental health profession, challenging old beliefs about its relevance and impact on physical and mental health. It also describes how it can be a catalyst for personal transformation and meaning-making of adversity in childhood.

Developmental Trauma: The Game Changer in the Mental Health Profession

Education & Teaching

Weinhold PhD, Janae B.

Schools & Teaching

CICRCL Press

This book presents a radically new approach to leadership at all levels. Drawing on ancient principles first proposed by Lao Tsu, a sixth century B.C. Chinese philosopher, the author presents a new, and refreshing look at what a future world might look like if we had more servant leaders at all levels. The book describes the characteristics of a servant leader and the optimal personal development of this kind of leader. The key to the self-development of the servant leader is his/her ability to create a fully individuated Self. In addition, servant leaders need to integrate both the masculine and feminine sides of their personality. These personal achievements will enable them to truly serve others, without the interference of ego or other manipulations. The book is organized by first presenting an overview of servant leadership; what it is and what it isn’t. Then the book describes the optimal personal development of a servant leader. This is followed by a description of some of the various obstacles to overcome. After each chapter that describes obstacles, there is a chapter offering strategies for the servant leader to use as an agent of change to overcome these obstacles.

The Servant Leader: What the World Needs Now (The Real Men Series)

Betrayal and the Path of the Heart provides a framework for using betrayals to open your heart, to better understand yourself and others, and for expanding your consciousness. Our own experiences of coping with betrayal, both in our own lives and in those of our many clients, helped us discover a unique approach for using betrayals as a growth experience. It's important to understand the underlying causes of betrayal experiences in order to avoid repeating them. Otherwise you're likely to make choices that cause you to re-experience betrayal's painful suffering. Most people unconsciously react to betrayal with revenge against their betrayers, or they become hypervigilant in their intimate relationships to make sure they don't get hurt again. This book offers new ways to understand the causes of betrayals. Perhaps you ignored the early warning signs for what seemed to be really good reasons-you trusted too much, or believed the person saw the world or your relationships the way you did. The outcome is that you become less trusting of yourself and your ability to find dependable people. This book takes you deeper into the understanding of betrayal, helps you make better choices when you experience them, and increases your awareness about their underlying causes. It identifies how distorted views of those closest to help create betrayals. Once you are free from these distortions, you are less likely to fall prey to betrayals again.

Betrayal and the Path of the Heart

Self-Help

Relationships

Polarized thinking currently is the greatest threat facing this country and other countries in many parts of the world. Humanity is stuck in "either-or" thinking. Everything is right or wrong, black or white, East or West, liberal or conservative, guns or no guns, etc. You may find yourself "splitting" against people and organizations that hold different views from yours. I believe this is happening because you, like most people, are living out of your False Self. Your True Self is hidden somewhere inside of you waiting patiently for you to wake up and discover it. This book examines the hazards of living out of your False Self. You may strive to live out of your Authentic Self, but at the same time you may struggle with having to use your False Self to please others in your life, just to get along. As a result, you may find yourself living out of your False Self more than you want. Even if you are aware of when you do this, you may not know how to change it. Childhood traumas likely prevented you from completing your "psychological birth" and from developing a fully individuated True Self by age three. If this did not happen, you will have to complete this important milestone as an adult or spend the rest of your life living out of a substitute False Self. I estimate that less than 5% percent of adults actually completed that milestone at age three. This book shows you how to move out of overusing your False Self and strengthening your True Self. Your False Self shows up in two very different ways: as a deflated or depressed False Self and an inflated or narcissistic False Self. Some people have symptoms stemming from both conditions. The hazards you face by living out of your False Self, in either case, include victim behaviors, depression, anxiety, addictions, narcissistic behaviors, toxic shame, projections and poor decisions that likely involve you trying to please others rather than being true to yourself. Are you ready to change that?In addition, I look at the threats of polarized thinking to our current political system and how the overuse of the False Self could actually bring down our country. Did you know that a country or an empire can be brought down, if most of the people living there operate mostly out of their False Self? This country is no exception. We could lose the democracy we have been creating over the past 250 years because a vast majority of the people living in this country continue to living out of their False Self. That is the ultimate hazard.Finally, I provide you with the best tools I have found to help you identify and remove the hazards of living out of your False Self and reclaim your True Self. If you are serious about living a more authentic life, this book will provide you with the tools to accomplish just that.

GET REAL: THE HAZARDS OF LIVING OUT OF YOUR FALSE SELF

Aging

Hidden developmental trauma can disrupt your life and relationships and cause you to freak out. It is hard enough to be a human being. You, like many people, freak out just trying to cope with the stress from competition to be better than others around you. In addition, you have to cope with conflicting thoughts where you judge, criticize and second-guess your every move and feeling state. You can easily get confused and anxious in your attempts to be successful and happy. It is important in all this to remember that what you resist will persist. The long-term effects of your hidden childhood traumas will not go away without you paying attention to them. The most effective and humane way to respond to these hidden developmental traumas is to bring loving attention to the situations where you freak out. It is sometimes challenging and confusing to locate the hidden causes of your reaction trauma, but if you refuse to pay attention when this happens, your hidden and unhealed trauma patterns will continue to control your life. The stress of being constantly on guard against freaking out, takes a lot of your energy. This book, the 56th that Dr. Weinhold has written, helps you locate the sources of your freaked out reactions and provides you with the tools you need to heal them. Dr. Weinhold has put the best-of-the-best material in this book and it represents the latest information and tools available to heal the long-term effects of developmental traumas. It contains all the tools that Dr. Weinhold used to locate and heal his own hidden developmental traumas. These are also the proven tools he has used with his clients for the past 40 years as a licensed psychologist and taught to his graduate students as a professor during the same time. Reading this book will give you hope that you can overcome the long-term effects of hidden childhood traumas and live a more relaxed and happy life. The first half of this book helps you identify your hidden developmental traumas with the help of Self-Quizzes and examples, so you can apply the content of the book to your own life and relationships. The second half of the book contains all the healing tools you need to rid yourself of the experience of freaking out when you are with certain people and are in certain situations. These people or situations trigger memories of the feelings connected to the original childhood trauma. This is what causes you to freak out. Most of the tools described in the book also work if you are suffering from an event trauma caused by an accident, natural disaster or combat situation. Freaked Out begins with information about event trauma and how it differs from developmental or relational trauma. Part One of the book focuses on how event traumas and relational traumas can disrupt your life. Part Two focuses on the long-term effects of hidden and unhealed developmental traumas on your relationships. Part Three provides the tools you need to heal these disruptive emotional reactions. Be sure to visit the website for this book at http://freakedoutnomore.info and be sure to "like" us on Facebook at . This is where you will continue to find new information and tools about how to identify and heal the long-term effects of hidden developmental traumas that are causing you to Freak Out.

Freaked Out: How Hidden Developmental Traumas Can Disrupt Your Life and Relationships

Mental Health

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