The authors' unique, step-by-step approach to treating co-dependency has successfully helped many people overcome the devastating effects of this culturally ingrained societal problem and shows how to bring control back to an individual's life.

Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap

Self-Help

Weinhold Ph.D., Janae B.

Weinhold, Ph.D. Barry K.

Relationships

New World Library

This book is a classic in the self-help book market. It was first released in 1987 and has gone through five other editions before this expanded edition. The First part of the book helps you identify 12 intergenerational family patterns that could be affecting your adult relationships. Any family patterns that you have not identified and changed will continue to show up in your adult relationships and affect them in unknown ways. These include family beliefs about sickness and death. My research has shown that these belief patterns of disease and death run in families and your life may depend on identifying these patterns. Do you know what the sickness and death patterns are in your family of origin? If you don’t you need to read this book. The other family patterns include the following: • The reappearance of unwanted parental traits in your adult relationships. “He has a temper just like my father.” • An instant replay of co-dependent family patterns in your adult relationships. “She is so clingy just like my mother was.” • Living out your parent’s relationship in your adult relationships. “We seem to do the same things that your parents always do.” • Disapproving of things other say and do in similar ways that your parents did. “My Dad didn’t like Jews and I don’t either.” • Getting Even with your spouse because of how your parents hurt you. “You criticize me like my Mom used to do.” • Acting weak and helpless. “You need to take care of me because I am too sick to go to work.” • Seeing life as a struggle. “Why does everything seem so hard?” • Sexual repression. “Since we had our first child, you don’t seem to be interested in sex anymore.” • Being asked to take care of your parents needs before taking care of your own. “I had to grow up too fast and I missed doing certain fun things when I was a child.” • A fear of success due to loyalty and legacy issues. “We can’t have a better house than our parents have.” • A fear of the unfamiliar causing an addiction to your family patterns and traditions. “Why can’t we have our own Christmas instead of following what your parents do?” Once you have identified all 12 patterns, then you will need to know how to change them. The second part of the book shows you how to change your family patterns and break free of the hold they may have on your life and relationships. Unless you identify and change these family patterns they are destined to show up in your current adult relationships. Thousands of folks, like you, have read the book and sent me reports about how much the book helped them. Here is what some of them wrote: “I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in learning how their family of origin has impacted their life. Barry shows us with kindness and caring how we can move forward and have a more productive and healthy life.” C. H. Another reader wrote: “The author clearly teaches you how to separate yourself from the issue and gives you the steps to move forward and be the healthy adult you should be. I can say that this helped me very much and would recommend it to anyone whether they have dysfunction in their homes or not!” A. R. Finally, this reader put it succinctly: “Read this book if you want real change, I recommend it with my full heart.” A. B. Every adult exhibits some addictive family patterns. These are so common that they go unnoticed, until something disrupts your life that clearly originated in your family of origin. This book will help you understand why this happens to everybody and what to do about it. I have worked with thousands of adults in my private practice as a psychologist and this is where I usually start with a new client. I ask them to connect the dots and identify what family patterns still interfere with them having harmonious adult relationships. When these family patterns show up in your adult relationships, it is a good sign that you are ready to change them. This book shows you how to do that.

Breaking Free: How To Identify and Change Your Addictive Family Patterns

Parenting & Relationships

CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform

Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way

Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way presents readers with a proven paradigm for effective conflict resolution in all human systems called the Partnership Way. Within this model, individuals are encouraged to see those with whom they are experiencing conflict as partners and to identify conflict as an opportunity for personal and relational transformation. The Partnership Way features a strong theoretical foundation, presents a systemic approach to conflict resolution, and empowers individuals to lead more authentic lives. The book is divided into four parts. Part One provides an overview of the Partnership Way, its theoretical foundation, and the key components of the model. In Part Two, readers learn how to apply the model to resolve interpersonal conflicts concerning wants, needs, values, and beliefs. Part Three demonstrates how to resolve intractable conflicts that involve unmet needs related to unhealed development traumas. The final part of the text focuses on the application of the Partnership Way to resolving conflicts in schools, professions, communities, cultures, nation-states, and the history of the human race. Highly personal and experiential in nature, Conflict Resolution helps current and future practitioners in education, counseling, social work, psychology, and law to not only develop skillsets to guide clients through effective conflict resolution, but to successfully apply the skills to their own lives and relationships.

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Psychology & Counseling

Cognella Academic Publishing

Do you know someone who... — Has trouble being close to others? — Has a strong need to be right – all the time? — Acts self-centered and egotistical? — Never asks for help? — Expects perfection in self and others? — Seldom appears vulnerable or weak? — Has difficulty relaxing?
If so, this person may suffer from counter-dependency, the little-known flip side of co-dependency. The Flight from Intimacy, by psychologists Janae and Barry Weinhold, reveals counter-dependency as the major barrier to creating intimate relationships. People with counter-dependent behaviors appear strong, secure, and successful on the outside, while on the inside they feel weak, fearful, insecure, and needy. They function well in the world of business but often struggle in intimate relationships. Being in a relationship with this kind of person can be extremely frustrating.
The Flight from Intimacy shows readers how to recognize and cope with counter-dependent people. And if you recognize yourself in the description above, this book will help you learn how to change. It teaches readers how to use committed relationships to heal childhood wounds and provides proven ways to use conflicts as opportunities for creating intimate, partnership relationships.

The Flight from Intimacy: Healing Your Relationship of Counter-dependence The Other Side of Co-dependency

Mental Health

This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life.
Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.
Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.

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Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap

Breaking Free: How To Identify and Change Your Addictive Family Patterns

Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way

The Flight from Intimacy: Healing Your Relationship of Counter-dependence The Other Side of Co-dependency

Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap