Building a Marriage That Will Last a Lifetime Authors Greg and Erin Smalley open their hearts and share their lives in Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage so that you can know not only how to build a marriage that will last, but also how to have the kind of marriage where you and your spouse feel safe and honored and valued. When you feel safe, your heart will be open -- and open hearts make for fulfilling, powerful relationships. Find out about the "fear dance" and how to stop dancing it. Discover the two biggest issues that threaten every marriage and how to stop them before they start. Learn what's more important than finding your soul mate and the significance of happiness in your union. As wonderful as a wedding is, it lasts only for a brief time -- yet marriage is meant to last a lifetime. This important book will show you how to plan your marriage before you plan your wedding.

Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage

Self-Help

Halliday, Steve

Smalley, Dr. Greg

Smalley, Erin

Relationships

Howard Books

Dr. Greg Smalley draws from research, counseling, and his own marriage to reveal the benefits of conflict and how to fight productively. In this counterintuitive book, author Dr. Greg Smalley maintains that fighting is actually good for a marriage. When couples fight, they have the opportunity to get to the real issue lurking below the surface about money, sex, in-laws, kids, etc. And that real issue, Dr. Smalley says, is fear—fear of rejection, inadequacy, or powerlessness, to name a few. What assuages these fears are things like intimacy, respect, validation, love, and connection. Learning to take advantage of the opportunity that conflict provides is what this book is all about. The good news of Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage is that conflict—when handled correctly—is the doorway to intimacy and under-standing. As Dr. Smalley leads readers through the many faces of conflict, he is open and candid about his own marriage and the unproductive fights he and his wife have had. He uses his fears and emotional triggers as examples to help read-ers discover their own. Couples will learn how to fight their way to a better marriage, using the skills, concepts, and exercises shared in this remarkable book. *** Typical marriage fights = money, sex, in-laws, and kids. But what if fights could = trust, respect, intimacy, and understanding? WHAT IF CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE COULD BE A GOOD THING? The truth is that marriages and spouses can’t grow without conflict. Some of the many values of conflict include: * An opportunity to break old, ineffective patterns * A way to guard against being too comfortable or too complacent, which breeds mediocrity and boredom * Insight into your own personal issues * A window for viewing each other’s deepest feelings and needs * Reduction of tension as emotions are vented and stress is released * Greater trust and intimacy after pushing through difficult and heated conversations * Higher levels of marital satisfaction every time you manage the conflict well * The sole reason we have the amazing experience of makeup sex

Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage: How Healthy Conflict Can Take You to Deeper Levels of Intimacy

Based on years of counseling, research, and success stories, Dr. Greg Smalley teaches us how to use marital conflict as a way to deepen and strengthen our relationships. In this counterintuitive book, author Dr. Greg Smalley maintains that fighting is actually good for a marriage. When couples fight, they have the opportunity to get to the real issue that is lurking below the surface of fights about money, sex, in-laws, kids, etc. And that real issue, Dr. Smalley says, is fear—fear of rejection, inadequacy, or powerlessness, to name a few. What assuages these fears are things like intimacy, respect, validation, love, and connection. Learning to take advantage of the opportunity that conflict provides is what this book is all about. The good news of Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage is that conflict—when handled correctly—is the doorway to intimacy and understanding. As Dr. Smalley leads readers through the many faces of conflict, he is open and candid about his own marriage and the unproductive fights he and his wife have had. He uses his fears and emotional triggers as examples to help readers discover their own. Couples will learn how to fight their way to a better marriage, using the skills, concepts, and exercises shared in this remarkable book.

Parenting & Relationships

With time-tested concepts taken from the popular Focus on the Family Date Night Challenge, you'll find out how to turn everyday activities into fun opportunities that enrich your marriage. Each of the 52 creative date ideas are budget-friendly and come with conversation starters to help you connect and build emotional intimacy. For couples of all ages and stages - newly engaged or married for years.

Take the Date Night Challenge: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun

Focus on the Family

Want a marriage filled with passion and adventure? Capture the whimsical sense of excitement and romance you shared at the very start! Learn to navigate life’s twists and turns to find God’s best for your marriage with the help of Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley. They’ll lead you and your spouse to discover “true love” as described by God in the Bible. With candor and grace, these beloved marriage experts share the secrets of a strong marriage that yield a lifetime of adventurous and cray-zee love. These relationship-renewing secrets will strengthen your marriage at its very core:Appreciate your “sole” mate and, in the process, discover your “soul” mate.Understand that marriage is a battle — but it’s a battle against selfishness, not your spouse.Quit striving to get your spouse to love you... and learn to strive to love your spouse better.Realize that in marriage, the “small stuff” is often the “big stuff” and that dealing with tiny details can net big returns.Avoid “chore wars” and instead join forces to establish a home with respect and reciprocity.View sex as a delightful “dance” in which you put the needs and interests of your spouse ahead of your own.

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage: 12 Secrets for a Lifelong Romance

Oasis Audio

Dr. Greg Smalley—founder of the National Institute of Marriage—along with his wife, Erin, share the secrets of building a marriage that lasts: creating an environment where each partner feels safe and hearts are open. As wonderful as a wedding is, it lasts only for a moment—yet marriage is meant to last a lifetime. This essential book will show you how to plan your marriage before you plan your wedding. Authors Greg and Erin Smalley open their hearts and share their lives in Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage so that you can know not only how to build a marriage that will last, but also how to have the kind of marriage where you and your spouse feel safe, honored, and valued. When you feel safe, your heart will be open—and open hearts make for joyful, powerful relationships. Learn about the “fear dance” and how to stop it. Discover the two biggest issues that threaten every marriage and how to stop them before they start. Learn what’s more important than finding your soul mate and the significance of happiness in your union. And realize the significance of happiness in your union. With advice gleaned from counseling thousands of couples both before and after marriage, Greg and Erin Smalley show you the secrets to building and maintaining an enduring and fulfilling love.

Before You Plan Your Wedding . . . Plan Your Marriage

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Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage

Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage: How Healthy Conflict Can Take You to Deeper Levels of Intimacy

Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage: How Healthy Conflict Can Take You to Deeper Levels of Intimacy

Take the Date Night Challenge: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage: 12 Secrets for a Lifelong Romance

Before You Plan Your Wedding . . . Plan Your Marriage