“If you do one thing different, read this book! It is filled with practical, creative, effective, down-to-earth solutions to life’s challenging problems.”—Michele Weiner-Davis, author of Divorce Busting
The 20th anniversary edition of a self-help classic, updated with a new preface: Tapping into widespread popular interest in highly effective, short-term therapeutic approaches to personal problems, author Bill O’Hanlon offers 10 Solution Keys to help you free yourself from "analysis paralysis" and quickly get unstuck from aggravating problems.
Tired of feeling stuck all the time when you’re trying to solve a problem or are facing conflict? Do you get easily flustered or angry when a negative confrontation arises? Have you ever wished you could communicate more easily with your spouse, kids, colleagues, or anyone else you have a difference in opinion with? In this newly updated edition of Do One Thing Different, Bill O’Hanlon will arm you with his ten easy Solution Keys so that you can move quickly from "stuck" to "smooth sailing" in all aspects of your life. Humorous, direct, and—most important of all—effective, these keys will help you change how you view and "do" your problems—from difficult relationships to enhancing sexuality and resolving conflicts of all kinds. The next time you have a problem, try one of these Solution Keys:
<ul><li>Break Problem Patterns: Change any one of what you usually do in the problem situation by doing one thing different! Example: If you usually get angry and defensive, sit quietly and listen.</li></ul>
<ul><li>Find and Use Solution Patterns: Import solutions from other situations where you felt competent. Examples: What do you know on the golf course that you forget when you get behind the wheel of your car? What do you say to resolve a problem with an angry customer that you don't say to your angry partner?</li></ul>
<ul><li>Shift Your Attention: Focus on what you would like to have happen rather than on what is happening.</li></ul>
Grounded in therapeutic practice, Do One Thing Different will put you back in control of your emotions and your life.

DO 1 THING DIFFERENT 20TH A

Business & Money

O'Hanlon, Bill

Job Hunting & Careers

MorrowPb

Are you a co-dependent Cinderella who loves a man who hates women too much? A Peter Pan in denial about his inability to make a commitment? If so, it's time to stop analyzing your relationship.
Even if you've discovered from the talk shows and the self-help books that you're afraid of intimacy or prone to self-destruction because of a miserable childhood, has it really helped? If not, it's time for action; it's time for Love Is a Verb. Here is a fresh, new approach to relationships. The book goes beyond analyzing relationships to changing them, even if one partner isn't interested. Using a solution-oriented approach, humor, stories, and good common sense, Bill O'Hanlon and Pat Hudson (marriage counselors and husband and wife) show readers how to:
<ul>
<li>break free of old patterns in days and weeks, not months or years</li>
<li>quickly and easily solve relationship problems</li>
<li>improve their sex life</li>
<li>increase feelings of love and closeness</li>
<li>get over past hurts</li>
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Lively, upbeat, and future-focused, Love Is a Verb shows readers how to change today's dreams of more romance and happiness into tomorrow's reality.

Love is a Verb: How to Stop Analyzing Your Relationship and Start Making it Great!

O'Hanlon, Patricia Hudson

Parenting & Relationships

W.W.Norton&Company

"I had a hard time finishing this book; my married friends kept stealing it. Lively, personal, and jargon free, it is a delight to read. . . . The authors know and show what it means to make a marriage work." ―Jill Elka Harkaway, Ed.D.In a radical departure from traditional marital therapy approaches, the authors use the power of validation and solution-oriented strategies to break marital deadlocks. Rather than becoming mired in blame and analysis, they help couples find problems that can be solved, move toward collaboration and accountability, and change destructive patterns. Their approach―hopeful, positive, and often humorous―has been well received in their workshops for couples.

Rewriting Love Stories: Brief Marital Therapy

"An excellent resource for anyone who wants to have a healthy relationship." --Bernie Siegel, M.D.
Here is a fresh, new approach to relationships. It goes beyond analyzing relationships to changing them, even if one partner isn't interested. Using a solution-oriented approach, the authors show readers how to:
<ul>
<li>break free of old patterns in days or weeks, not months or years</li>
<li>quickly and easily solve relationship problems</li>
<li>improve their sex life</li>
<li>increase feelings of love and closeness</li>
<li>get over past hurts.</li>
</ul>
Since making the shift from analyzing the past to plotting the future is not easy, Bill O'Hanlon and Pat Hudson summarize key points and action steps for each change. They share the stories of their friends and therapy clients who have stopped blaming and started loving, inspiring their readers to be creative as they transform today's dreams of more romance and happiness into tomorrow's reality.

Stop Blaming, Start Loving!: A Solution-Oriented Approach to Improving Your Relationship

Self-Help

Relationships

"This is an essential primer of Ericksonian hypnotherapy and strategic psychotherapy. […] O’Hanlon provides threads that crystallize practical patterns useful to clinicians at all levels of expertise." ― Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D., Director, The Milton H. Erickson Foundation

Taproots: Underlying Principles of Milton Erickson's Therapy and Hypnosis (Norton Professional Book)

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Mental Health

"With brief therapy finally getting deserved interest, the time is ripe for an overview. Cade and O'Hanlon state that they 'decided to collaborate on a book that would summarize the main elements, the ideas, principles, attitudes, and techniques associated with brief therapy.' Read this work--you'll be glad they did, and you did." --John H. Weakland

A Brief Guide to Brief Therapy

Cade, Brian

Tested, practical methods that help people reconnect with their sense of hope and possibility. When was the last time you read a book to improve your professional skills and had fun at the same time? For people interested in the latest developments in brief, solution-oriented therapies, and for any who want to improve their therapeutic skills without unnecessary toil, A Guide to Possibility Land is a terrific introduction to the territory. Possibility therapy, originated by Bill O’Hanlon, is about acknowledging and validating clients’ felt experience and ideas about their lives while ensuring that possibilities for change are discovered and amplified. A Guide to Possibility Land outlines this humorous, compassionate approach to action-oriented therapy in a lively and accessible text. Each method is defined, explained, and illustrated, all in a page or two. By the book’s end the reader is empowered with a huge selection of strategies and an enlightening map of possibility land.

A Guide to Possibility Land: Fifty-One Methods for Doing Brief, Respectful Therapy

Beadle, Sandy

In recent years, more and more people have been coming to therapy with the problem of the after-effects of sexual abuse. In this book, Bill O’Hanlon, a co-developer of solution-oriented therapy, and Bob Bertolino, provide clinicians with forward-looking, respectful therapy that taps into and honors people’s inherent learning abilities. Their treatment model is a major departure from most addressing sexual abuse victims: it is less traumatic, less painful, and less disruptive to people’s lives.

Even From A Broken Web: Brief, Respectful Solution-Oriented Therapy for Sexual Abuse and Trauma

Bertolino Ph. D., Bob

A simple yet powerful approach to resistance from a leader in solution-focused therapy. In this engaging book, O’Hanlon introduces the three main concepts of inclusive therapy: permission, inclusion of opposites, and inclusion of exceptions. Each of the 26 featured methods is immediately applicable to your own practice.

A Guide to Inclusive Therapy: 26 Methods of Respectful, Resistance-Dissolving Therapy

This book is one of the first guides to applying solution-oriented approaches to mental illnesses such as severe depression, schizophrenia, and multiple personality disorder. Clinicians will learn techniques that can be incorporated into their practices in order to promote health, confidence, and a sense of possibility in their patients.

Solution-Oriented Therapy

Rowan, Tim

Psychology & Counseling

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