Emotional Blackmail: when the people in your life use fear, obligation and guilt to manipulate you

The author of Toxic Parents offers a provocative look at the devastating effects of emotional blackmail and manipulation on a relationship and presents a wide range of strategies to help strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle. 100,000 first printing. $60,000 ad/promo. Tour.

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You

Forward, Susan

Frazier, Donna

Frazier, Susan

Parenting & Relationships

Harpercollins

In this powerful and vitally important new book, internationally acclaimed therapist and bestselling author Susan Forward, Ph.D., provides invaluable advice for women whose men betray their confidence and trust with lies. 
 Illustrated with a wealth of true-life stories from women who have survived and thrived despite deceptive relationships, When Your Lover Is a Liar shows you how to maneuver through the labyrinth of lying in love relationships. Based on her many years of practice and her extensive knowledge, Forward profiles the wide variety of liars, tells how to deal with the lies--from the benign to the lethal--that these men spin, and gives you practical strategies to stop them before they ruin your relationship and your life. 
 "The lies that harm us all involve a deliberate attempt to deceive," Forward claims. Differentiating between lies that are blatant misstatements and those that are omissions of facts, she examines the manipulations that men who lie use to keep their partners from discovering the truth. Probing the mind of the liar, she shines a light on the myriad reasons why men lie and provides numerous dramatic examples of how they behave. She also presents a definitive portrait of the one type of liar a woman must leave immediately: the sociopath; the man without a conscience, whose greatest thrill is to exploit and deceive the woman who loves him. 
 In straightforward language, Forward examines the lies women tell themselves, helping you to cut through the denial that can perpetuate men's lying and prolong and deepen the hurt. Forward also paints a vivid picture of the effects lying has on women'including loss of self-respect, withdrawal, self-blame, rage, and the desire for revenge--and how to deal with them effectively. 
 Once you find out the truth about your lover and his lies, what do you do? Forward offers practical, proven step-by-step methods for healing the wounds caused by his deception and betrayal. She provides all the communication and behavioral techniques you need to deal with a lover's lies. Forward tells you exactly what to say, when and how to respond to his reactions, and how to present your requirements for staying in the relationship. With understanding and compassion, she helps you decide whether your relationship can be saved and shows you how to move beyond doubt and regret if it can't. 
 But whether you stay or go, you can learn to love and trust again. Susan Forward shows you the path to rebuilding your confidence and self-respect as well as experiencing the rebirth of trust, both in yourself and in your partner.

When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal

Self-Help

Relationships

Susan Forward's practical and powerful book will help couples cope with terrible and toxic in–laws.
Toxic in–laws are in–laws who create genuine chaos through various assaults––aggressive or subtle––on you and your marriage. Toxic–in laws come in a wide variety of guises: "The Critics", who tell you what you're doing wrong; "The Controllers", who try to run you and your partner's life; "The Engulfers", who make incessant demands on your time; "The Masters of Chaos", who drain you and your partner with their problems; and "The Rejecters", who let you know they don't want you as part of their family. 
Susan Forward draws on real–life voices and stories of both women and men struggling to free themselves from the frustrating, hurtful and infuriating relationships with their toxic in–laws. Dr. Forward offers you highly effective communication and behavioral techniques for getting through to partners who won't or can't stand up to their parents. Next, she lays out accessible and practical ways to reclaim you marriage from your in–laws. She shows you what to say, what to do and what limits to set. If you follow these strategies, you may not turn toxic in–laws into the in–laws of your dreams, but you will find some peace in your relationship with them.

Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage

Reference

Harper

Susan Forward's practical and powerful book will help couples cope with terrible and toxic inlaws.
 Toxic inlaws are inlaws who create genuine chaos through various assaultsaggressive or subtleon you and your marriage. Toxicin laws come in a wide variety of guises, " The Critics.; ", who tell you what you're doing wrong, "The Controllers.;", who try to run you and your partner's life, " The Engulfers.;", who make incessant demands on your time, " The Masters of Chaos.;", who drain you and your partner with their problems, and, " The Rejecters.;", who let you know they don't want you as part of their family. 
 Susan Forward draws on reallife voices and stories of both women and men struggling to free themselves from the frustrating, hurtful and infuriating relationships with their toxic inlaws. Dr. Forward offers you highly effective communication and behavioral techniques for getting through to partners who won't or can't stand up to their parents. Next, she lays out accessible and practical ways to reclaim you marriage from your inlaws. She shows you what to say, what to do and what limits to set. If you follow these strategies, you may not turn toxic inlaws into the inlaws of your dreams, but you will find some peace in your relationship with them.

Harper-perennial

A practical guide to better communication that will break the blackmail cycle for good, by one of the nation's leading therapists, Susan Forward. 
“Breathe a sigh of relief! Susan Forward helps you identify and correct an intensely destructive and confusing pattern of relating with those you love. I highly recommend this important book!"—Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway 
"If you really loved me..."
"After all I've done for you..."
"How can you be so selfish..."
Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance.
Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back.

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You

Donna Frazier

Harper Paperbacks

Have you ever been lied to by a lover? In this straightforward and supportive book, therapist Susan Forward profiles the wide variety of liars, shows you how to deal with the lies - from the benign to the lethal - that these men spin, and gives practical strategies to stop them before they ruin your relationship and, ultimately, your life.
Once you find out the truth about your lover and his lies, what do you do? Forward offers practical, proven, step-by-step methods for healing the wounds caused by his deception and betrayal. She provides all the communication and behavioral techniques you need to deal with a lover's lies, telling you exactly what to say, when and how to respond to his reactions, and how to present your requirements for staying in the relationship. With understanding and compassion, she helps you decide whether your relationship can be saved and shows you how to move beyond doubt and regret if you feel that it can't. But whether you stay or go, you can learn to love and trust again.

With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 bestseller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters—and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy.
In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love. Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse. 
Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests. 
Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.

Mothers Who Can't Love: A Therapist's Guide to Healing from the Emotional Damage of Unloving Mothers

Glynn, Donna Frazier

Incest is the ultimate taboo. Yet it is not, as previously thought, a rare occurrence limited to a handful of isolated and uneducated families, but a reality with which millions of Americans must cope. Incest is finally becoming a subject its victims are willing to talk about. Once a victim herself and now a psychotherapist specializing in its treatment, Susan Forward presents twenty-five case histories ranging from father and daughter, mother and son, siblings, grandfather and granddaughter, mother and daughter, to father and son. She shows how, with proper guidance, both victim and aggressor can put the experience into the proper perspective. Betrayal Of Innocence is the first book to discuss this repellent yet misunderstood subject with compassion and sensitivity.

Betrayal of Innocence: Incest and its Devastation

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Buck, Craig

Psychology & Counseling

Penguin??Books

A guide to overcoming obsessive love presents case histories of men and woman caught in the grip of obsessive passion and describes a step-by-step program that shows readers how to have healthy, lasting, pain-free relationships. 40,000 first printing.

No se obsesione con el amor (Spanish Edition)

Debolsillo]

Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave? Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy? Is he extremely jealous and possessive? Does he switch from charm to anger without warning? Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments? Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you? Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship? Do you find yourself "walking on eggshells" and apologizing all the time? If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist -- a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you. In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men ad women trapped in these relationships to help you understand you man's destructive pattern, the part you play in it, how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man. From the Paperback edition.

Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why

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Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You

When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal

Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage

Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You

When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal

Mothers Who Can't Love: A Therapist's Guide to Healing from the Emotional Damage of Unloving Mothers

Betrayal of Innocence: Incest and its Devastation

No se obsesione con el amor (Spanish Edition)

Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why