The Ethics of Interpersonal Relationships

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Firestone, Robert W.

Catlett, Joyce

Mental Health

Routledge

How much of our identity or 'self' is truly representative of our own wants, needs, and goals in life and how much does it reflect the desires and priorities of someone else? Are we following our own destiny or are we unconsciously repeating the lives of our parents, living according to their values, ideals, and beliefs? In this thought-provoking book, noted clinical psychologist Robert Firestone and his co-authors explore the struggle that all of us face in striving to retain a sense of ourselves as unique individuals. The self is under siege from several sources: primarily pain and rejection in the developmental years, problems in relationships, detrimental societal forces, and existential realities that affect all people. Through numerous case studies and personal stories from men and women who participated in a 35-year observational study, the authors illustrate how voice therapy, a cognitive/affective/behavioral methodology pioneered by Firestone, is used to elicit, identify, and challenge the destructive inner voice and to change aversive behaviors based on its prescriptions. The theory they describe integrates the psychodynamic and existential approaches underlying voice therapy and is enriched by research findings in the neurosciences, attachment research, and terror management theory (TMT). An important addition to the area of personality development theory, The Self under Siege offers a new perspective on differentiation and the battle to separate ourselves from the chains of the past. It provides psychotherapists and other mental health professionals with the tools needed to help clients differentiate from the dysfunctional attitudes and toxic personality traits of their parents, other family members, and harmful societal influences that have unconsciously dominated their lives. This book will have a special appeal to clients and, in fact, to any person interested in his/her own personal development

The Self Under Siege

Firestone, Lisa

This book offers a hypothesis centering around the concept of the "Fantasy Bond", an illusion of connection formed with the mother and later with significant others in the individual's environment.

The Fantasy Bond: Effects of Psychological Defenses on Interpersonal Relations

Psychology & Counseling

Insight Books

This work offers important insights in the origins, pervasiveness, and destructiveness of the defensive process. The text formulates these views and then elaborates upon both the pain and joy of human existence. The authors point the way toward reversing the damaging process that keeps an individual from experiencing genuine satisfaction while maintaining feelings of compassion for oneself and others. Case histories show how people ultimately reject love and companionship with their mates and families for an imagined connection or an illusion of security. The text aims to be a source of information and enlightenment for broadening our understanding of ourselves, and enabling change toward positive, constructive behaviour.

Psychological Defenses in Everyday Life

Medical Books

Psychological Defenses in Everyday Life is a rich resouce that broadens personal understanding by examining the origins of childhood misery, subsequent defense formation, and the pervasiveness and destructiveness of the resulting maladaptive, addictive behaviors in adults. Numerous case histories show people rejecting love and companionship for imagined connections and illusions. The authors point a way toward reversing the damaging process that keeps individuals from experiencing genuine satisfaction.

The Glendon Association

Sex And Love In Intimate Relationships

llustrates how experiences and messages from our parents during childhood create internal defenses that, in turn, support negative views of ourself and others. Since these psychological barriers interfere with emotional closeness and sexual intimacy with a partner, the authors emphasize solving the underlying issues over improving technical performance or on "being more romantic". In accessible language and through the liberal use of case material from couples-therapy sessions, workshop leaders and psychologists Firestone and his coauthors show how to solve sexual difficulties and face the psychological issues that are at the root of many couples' problems.

Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships

Self-Help

Firestone, Lisa A.

Relationships

Amer Psychological Assn

Fear of Intimacy

Why is it that the relationships we care about most - those with our intimate partners - often seem doomed to fail? Why do we feel compelled to punish those closest to us who love and appreciate our real qualities?

Written in a jargon-free style, this book shows how therapists can help identify and overcome the messages of the internal voice that fosters distortions of the self and loved ones. Related issues such as interpersonal ethics and the role of stereotyping are also discussed.

The inner critic is the voice in our heads that whispers, whines, and needles us into poor self-esteem and self-confidence. It edits our thoughts, controls our behavior, and inhibits our actions. It thinks it is protecting us from being hurt or feeling abandoned, but all it really does is reinforce our feelings of shame and guilt, sabotage our intimate relationships, and incline us to self-destructive behaviors. Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice presents a revolutionary new strategy for dealing with the inner critic: externalizing it. This subtle, powerful technique turns internal self-criticisms into 'you' statements that can be evaluated objectively and exposed as the gross exaggerations, unfair comparisons, or flat out lies they really are. This book takes you through the step-by-step process of learning how to keep track of your negative thoughts, analyze their reality, and recognize how they impact your life. Learn to use a variety of techniques to help release your inner critic's stranglehold and combat its subversive effect on your career achievement, intimate relationships, and sexuality. A final chapter of the book offers parents simple ways to help their children avoid forming a tyrannical inner critic.

Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free from Imagined Limitations

Firestone PhD, Robert W.

Personal Transformation

New Harbinger Publications

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The Ethics of Interpersonal Relationships

The Self Under Siege

The Fantasy Bond: Effects of Psychological Defenses on Interpersonal Relations

Psychological Defenses in Everyday Life

Psychological Defenses in Everyday Life

Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships

Fear of Intimacy

Fear of Intimacy

Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free from Imagined Limitations

Sex And Love In Intimate Relationships