If any of this sounds familiar, you're not alone. We've become a nation of lonely serial daters, consumed by work, suspicious of romance, so unsure of finding lasting love that we settle for dispiriting blind dates and the company of friends. In short, we've forgotten how to fall in love.
But help is on the way. In Why Can't I Pall in Love? Shmuley Boteach, author of the international bestseller Kosher Sex, offers hope for anyone who wonders why love is so hard to find. Bringing love into your life, he counsels, is about more than just sizing up candidates and waiting for a ring. It's about finding your way back to innocence -- back to the Garden, where Adam and Eve invented romance.
Combining anecdotes with practical tips, Boteach proposes a radical new approach to love, an approach designed to help singles and those in long-term relationships alike. And his Twelve LoveSteps program describes measures anyone can take to make the dream of love a reality, including:
<ul>
<li>Heal your love wound</li>
<li>Call a moratorium on dating</li>
<li>Let go of people who are wasting your time</li>
<li>Recapture your mental virginity</li>
</ul>
Filled with helpful exercises -- including a Declaration of Dependence to be signed and shared with potential mates -- Why Can't I Fall in Love? offers a refreshingly positive strategy to help you embrace love...and change your life.

Why Can't I Fall in Love? A 12-Step Program

Boteach, Rabbi Shmuley

Parenting & Relationships

William Morrow

Contemporary culture blasts us daily with models of how we should behave -- dubious models at best. From the strip club aesthetics of MTV teen idols to the clawing, hell-bent competitions of reality TV, sometimes it can seem that every corner of our media-drenched society is sending an unmistakable message to us and our children: Shed your dignity, exploit yourself and others, and you'll be on the path to glory. And yet, as popular talk-radio host Shmuley Boteach contends, there's another way to live, another path to heroism -- and its avatars are all around us. The Private Adam takes its name from an oft-overlooked passage in the earliest chapters of the Bible -- a passage that speaks directly to the warring impulses that pervade our culture today. As Boteach notes, the figure of Adam is introduced twice: first as a figure in God's image, commanded to subdue and conquer the world; and then as a man created from dust, told to nurture the Garden of Eden and care for it. In this image of two divergent Adams -- the aggressive public figure and the humble private man -- Boteach finds a parable for man's eternal struggle between ambition and altruism, self-promotion and self-sacrifice. In The Private Adam, Boteach contends that society today is fixated on the dubious values of the Public Adam -- the macho warrior motivated by insecurity more than honor -- and that the result is a crueler and more soulless world. In contrast, he celebrates the Private Adam, the selfless man or woman whose struggle to do right is the stuff of unsung battles every day. Illuminated with inspiring examples from history and contemporary life -- and filled with valuable advice -- The Private Adam is Boteach's most thoughtful and universal book yet.

The Private Adam: Becoming a Hero in a Selfish Age

Politics & Social Sciences

Social Sciences

From the author of the internationally bestselling Kosher Sex. A wake-up call about the growing trend of misogyny in our culture-as evidenced by the flood of reality TV shows, ads, and lyrics that portray women as brainless bimbos, or worse 
Shmuley Boteach, the social commentator and outspoken relationship guru, shares his grave concerns about our society's growing contempt for women. Turn on the television: Reality TV shows such as The Bachelor, For Love or Money, and Average Joe boost their ratings by showing attractive women in competition for one man, one man's money, or both. On a "quest for true love," these women quickly devolve into a pit of vipers-and millions of Americans tune in each week for more. During commercial breaks, women are objectified to sell beer, cars, and every other product under the sun. Flip on the radio: Women are bitches, hos, and gold diggers, at least if you listen to the rap lyrics pumping out into our mass consciousness. And female pop stars like Britney and Madonna, says Boteach, have pushed the envelope past provocative and into the downright pornographic. 'Tween girls across the country follow their lead, and standards for how women should be treated plummet.
Perhaps one of the most troubling aspects of this trend, he says, is women's complicity in their own degradation. Either they've become resigned to base stereotypes, or worse, they've bought into these mass market values (hence the deluge of shows like The Swan and Extreme Makeover, on which female contestants insist they need a new nose, teeth, or boobs to feel a positive sense of self-esteem). "There are strong consequences," writes Boteach, "in a world where men have no respect for women and women have no respect for themselves." 
Greedy gold diggers, brainless bimbos, publicity prostitutes, and backstabbing bitches-are these the stereotypes we want our sons and daughters bombarded by as they grow up? Hating Women offers a vision of how we can correct this downward spiral-along with a strong argument for why we absolutely must.

Hating Women: America's Hostile Campaign Against the Fairer Sex

History

Historical Study & Educational Resources

Regan Books

"Something's missing in my life." "Everyone I meet is imperfect." "I date and date, but I just can't commit." "I'm so busy all the time." "Who needs love, anyway?"
Sound familiar? For every such plea, Shmuley Boteach -- author of the international bestseller Kosher Sex -- has the answer. In Why Can't I Fall in Love? Boteach blends time-honored wisdom with practical tips and anecdotes from his private counseling practice. Boteach presents a radical program designed to help singles (and even those in long-term relationships) make their dreams of love a reality.

William Morrow Paperbacks

Contemporary culture blasts us daily with dubious models of how we should behave -- from the strip club aesthetics of MTV teen idols to the clawing, hell-bent competitions of reality TV, it seems that every corner of our media-drenched society is saying: Shed your dignity, exploit yourself and others, and you'll be on the path to glory.In The Private Adam, the noted rabbi and social commentator Shmuley Boteach reflects on the role of the hero in contemporary culture and contends that the media celebrates and rewards the values of the classical hero -- the aggressive macho warrior of ancient Rome who is motivated solely by self-promotion -- and that the glorification of this figure has rendered us a crueler, harsher, and more shallow society. In contrast, Boteach celebrates the Private Adam, the everyday men and women whose heroism stems from their lives of selfless actions and small sacrifices, even if an equestrian statue will not be erected in their honor. lluminated with inspiring examples from history and contemporary life and filled with valuable advice, The Private Adam is Boteach's most thoughtful book yet.

Philosophy

Harper Paperbacks

Why do I have to repeat everything? Why does every conversation end in an argument? 
Communicating with our children. Conversing. Connecting. When did it become so difficult? And how do we begin to change it for the better? 
This book was designed to help parents answer these important questions, and it is based on two fundamental ideas: The first is that there are no bad children, and no deliberately bad parents -- but that sometimes, despite the best of intentions on both sides, there can be bad relationships between parents and children. The second is that, as parents, we must do everything we can to save those relationships, to reach out and really communicate with our children, because it is only through talking to them that we can create an environment for inspiration and change. 
In this compelling book, Shmuley Boteach, passionate social commentator and outspoken relationship guru, walks you through the critical conversations, including: cherishing childhood; developing intellectual curiosity; knowing who you are and what you want to become; learning to forgive; realizing the importance of family and tradition; being fearless and courageous. As a father of eight, Rabbi Shmuley speaks from a wealth of experience. He has written a book for parents of children of all ages, from toddlers, who are just beginning to become aware of the world around them, to adolescents, who must learn to navigate all sorts of tricky social and academic pressures. 10 Conversations will help you stay connected to your children so that they develop the kind of strong moral character that leads to rich, meaningful lives.

10 Conversations You Need to Have with Your Children

Reference

What the Kama Sutra Can't Teach You . . . The Kosher Sutra Can The New York Times bestselling author Rabbi Shmuley Boteach shares the secrets to restoring the fire and energy in the bedroom and to everyday life.

The Kosher Sutra: Eight Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Alternative Medicine

HarperOne

Why Can't I Fall in Love?: A 12-Step Program

HarperAudio

In this alternately humorous and horrifying memoir, a Jewish father shleps his reluctant children around Europe on a hard-charging tour of Holocaust sites and memorials in order to impress on them the profound evil of Hitler's war against the Jews and the importance of combatting genocide.&nbsp; In 2017, renowned author and celebrity rabbi, Shmuley Boteach, decided to take his family on a European holiday. But instead of seeing the sights of London or Paris, he took his reluctant--and at times complaining--children on a harrowing journey though Auschwitz, Treblinka, Warsaw, and many other sites associated with Hitler's genocidal war against the Jews. His purpose was to impress upon them the full horror of the Holocaust so they would know and remember it deep in their bones. In the process, he and his children learn a great deal about the scope and nature of the European genocide and the continuing effects of global hatred and anti-Semitism. The resulting memoir is an utterly unique blend of travelogue, memoir and history--alternately fascinating, terrifying, frustrating, humorous, and tragic. "It is my honor to contribute a foreword to his important book, in which Rabbi Shmuley Boteach details the excruciating journey he took with his wife and children in the summer of 2017 to the killing fields of Europe, a pilgrimage which every person of conscience should attempt at least once in their lifetime.&nbsp;It is our universal obligation to dedicate ourselves to the memory of the martyred six million, just as it is our obligation to confront and defeat genocide wherever it rises." --From the foreword by Amb. Georgette Mosbacher

Holocaust Holiday: One Family's Descent into Genocide Memory Hell

World

Wicked Son

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Why Can't I Fall in Love? A 12-Step Program

The Private Adam: Becoming a Hero in a Selfish Age

Hating Women: America's Hostile Campaign Against the Fairer Sex

Hating Women: America's Hostile Campaign Against the Fairer Sex

Why Can't I Fall in Love? A 12-Step Program

The Private Adam: Becoming a Hero in a Selfish Age

10 Conversations You Need to Have with Your Children

The Kosher Sutra: Eight Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life

Why Can't I Fall in Love?: A 12-Step Program

Holocaust Holiday: One Family's Descent into Genocide Memory Hell