Terri Apter examines the pressure on working women as they try to balance marriage and childcare with the growing demands of the workplace. Analyzing the results of more than 100 interviews with working women, Apter shows how the myth of the "superwoman" masks the problems that real women must face.

Working Women Don't Have Wives: Professional Success in the 1990s

Business & Money

Apter, Terri

Management & Leadership

PALGRAVE~MACMILLAN

This book questions women's slow progress towards equality. Neither male conspiracies nor women's psychology is at fault, but social structures which fail to accommodate people who both need to earn a living and who are obliged to care for their families underlie persistent inequalities. Many women do succeed in combining motherhood with career success, but they do so by escaping set patterns both at work and in the home. This book charts the odds against them and their methods of triumph.

Professional Progress: Why Women Still Don't Have Wives (Why Women Don't Have Wives)

Politics & Social Sciences

Social Sciences

Identifying the renewed sense of self and reassessed goals shared by many middle-aged women, a study addresses the issues associated with menopause from the viewpoints of four female character types. Tour.

Secret Paths: Women in the New Midlife

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Women's Health

W.W. Norton & Co., Inc.

A guide to understanding conflicts that mark typical mother-daughter relationships offers advice on how parents can interpret what teenage daughters are trying to convey when they argue with their mothers, presenting case studies that demonstrate how to use difficult times to strengthen a bond.

You Don't Really Know Me: Why Mothers and Daughters Fight, and How Both Can Win

Self-Help

Relationships

The Sister Knot: Why We Fight, Why We're Jealous, and Why We'll Love Each Other No Matter What

“The best book on sisters, very important and beautifully written.”―Carol Gilligan, author of In a Different Voice This “substantial contribution to the literature on sibling relationships” (Library Journal) explores the intricacy, friction, and love in bonds between sisters. Relationships between women are often freighted with a rocky mix of emotions―devotion and disregard, affection and loathing, admiration and envy―leading to anguish and confusion on the playground, in the home, and in the boardroom. Negotiating her layered feelings toward a sister shapes a woman’s psychology as forcefully as do her relationships with her parents. Drawing on compelling interviews and new research, Terri Apter considers the many aspects of the sister relationship from birth through adulthood. The need to fight to differentiate oneself from a sister, as well the protectiveness one feels for that same person, is explained by reference to extensive psychological and biological evidence.

Parenting & Relationships

Family Relationships

W.W.Norton&Company

Breaking new ground in family psychology, an exploration of the intricacy, friction, and love in the bonds between in-laws. When we marry, we believe the bond is between only two individuals. Few of us realize the power that inlaws will exert over our lives. But the in-laws we acquire when we marry affect our quality of life―our marriage, family, personal comfort, and long-term well-being―for better or worse. What Do You Want From Me? takes a fresh look at the age-old problem of managing conflict with in-laws, offering practical help for dealing with problems that are both immediate (“How do I deal with my in-laws now?”) and strategic (“How can I change the nature of my in-laws’ demands?”). Terri Apter, a psychologist whose books on family dynamics have received international acclaim, draws on nearly two decades of psychological research to pinpoint the sources of tension between in-laws and explore the ways in which we can build healthy relationships with the in-laws in our lives.

What Do You Want from Me?: Learning to Get Along with In-Laws

An essential work for readers seeking compassionate, wise guidance about the powerful relationship between mothers and their sons and daughters. Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother―the angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful mother―and explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an “emotional audit” on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.

Difficult Mothers: Understanding and Overcoming Their Power

Terri Apter reveals how everyday judgments impact our relationships and how praise, blame, and shame shape our sense of self.
Do you know that praise is essential to the growth of a healthy brain? That experiences of praise and blame affect how long we live? That the conscious and unconscious judgments we engage in every day began as a crucial survival technique? Do you think people shouldn’t be judgmental? But, how judgmental are you, and how does this impact your relationships? “Keenly perceptive” (The Atlantic) psychologist and writer Terri Apter reveals how everyday judgments impact our relationships, and how praise, blame, and shame shape our sense of self.
Our obsession with praise and blame begins soon after birth. Totally dependent on others, rapidly we learn to value praise, and to fear the consequences of blame. Despite outgrowing an infant’s dependence, we continue to monitor others’ judgments of us, and we ourselves develop what relational psychologist Terri Apter calls a “judgment meter,” which constantly scans people and our interactions with them, and registers a positive or negative opinion.
In Passing Judgment, Apter reveals how interactions between parents and children, within couples, and among friends and colleagues are permeated with praise and blame that range far beyond specific compliments and accusations. Drawing on three decades of research, Apter gives us the tools to learn about our personal needs, goals and values, to manage our biases, to tolerate others’ views, and to make sense of our most powerful, and often confusing, responses to ourselves and to others.

Passing Judgment: Praise and Blame in Everyday Life

"The author of Altered Loves . . . now turns her analytical eye toward middle-aged women. The result is both lively and revealing." --New York Times Book ReviewIn this groundbreaking and insightful study Terri Apter traces womens midlife course, drawing on detailed interviews with women in their forties and fifties. Apter finds that women experience a renewed sense of themselves and see the second half of life as an opportunity for psychological growth and fulfillment instead of a time of despair over lost youth and beauty. She divides midlife women into four categories--traditional, innovative, expansive, protesting--and shows the cause for the midlife crisis and the path toward resolution for each type.

"Parents and young adults alike should benefit from the advice in Apter's insightful book."―Washington Post What do young people at the threshold of adulthood really need and want? Why do so many responsible and motivated teenagers become young adults who are still dependent, financially and emotionally, on their parents? Why are many young people today so quick to leave childhood behind, but so slow to become adults? In this wise and compassionate book, Terri Apter debunks outdated and misguided ideas about maturity: Acting in the name of love, many parents withdraw emotional or practical support, thinking it best for a son or daughter to solve his or her own problems―even to suffer alone the consequences of mistakes. Apter shows us that young adults actually need a parent's guidance and support, while also requiring respect and independence. Based on carefully observed case studies and current research, this book describes how we can support young people through a crucial stage in their development.

The Myth of Maturity: What Teenagers Need from Parents to Become Adults

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Working Women Don't Have Wives: Professional Success in the 1990s

Professional Progress: Why Women Still Don't Have Wives (Why Women Don't Have Wives)

Secret Paths: Women in the New Midlife

You Don't Really Know Me: Why Mothers and Daughters Fight, and How Both Can Win

The Sister Knot: Why We Fight, Why We're Jealous, and Why We'll Love Each Other No Matter What

What Do You Want from Me?: Learning to Get Along with In-Laws

Difficult Mothers: Understanding and Overcoming Their Power

Passing Judgment: Praise and Blame in Everyday Life

Secret Paths: Women in the New Midlife

The Myth of Maturity: What Teenagers Need from Parents to Become Adults