You Hide That You Hate Me and I Hide That I Know: Living with It in Rwanda

An unforgettable journey to Rwanda twenty years after the devastating genocide, from the author of the modern classic We Wish to Inform You That Tomorrow We Will Be Killed with Our Families His earth-shattering 1998 book, We Wish to Inform You That Tomorrow We Will Be Killed with Our Families, opened our eyes to Rwanda’s genocide: In one hundred days nearly a million people were murdered by their fellow citizens, and the world refused to stop it. Now, on the twentieth anniversary of the slaughter, Philip Gourevitch returns to Rwanda. A fiercely beautiful literary reckoning, You Hide That You Hate Me and I Hide That I Know explores with great insight and intimacy a society in which killers and survivors live again as neighbors, grappling with the burdens of memory and forgetting.  You Hide That You Hate Me and I Hide That I Know plunges into the lives of a vast cast of characters: from perpetrators and victims in tiny peasant communities to street kids, businessmen, artists, judges, the national cycling team to the country’s revolutionary leaders and their opponents. As Gourevitch weighs their accounts of Rwanda’s unexpected successes and its enduring weaknesses, he also revisits the wars of the genocide’s aftermath that continue in Congo. And he takes critical stock of how Western conventional wisdomwith its self-exculpations and its tendency to view African politics through the reductive lenses of humanitarian pity or punitive human rights absolutismclashes with the defiant ethic of self-determination that has guided Rwanda’s reconstruction. Does the West know what is best for a traumatized and impoverished postcolonial state, seeking to create itself as if from scratch? Is it reasonable to judge such a state strictly by our own imperfectly achieved ideals? Gourevitch’s investigation of Rwanda’s unprecedented experiment in national reconstruction continually invites us to think again. Combining travelogue and investigative reportage, personal narratives and political debates, Gourevitch’s stories of life after genocide are at once as essential and as ultimate as classical myths. You hide that you hate me and I hide that I know” is a stark Rwandan adage that describes the formula by which barbarism becomes civilization, and it is now a book about the challenges of forging a sane and habitable history after near annihilation.